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About “Words.”
Dr. Mike Holcomb
2/5/20252 min read


Been Thinkin About “Words.“
When Jean and I get into a “discussion,”I often forget a rule of mine; Watch your words and guard your tone. Forgetting that rule will cost you, dearly.
I was upset because we were late for Church by my standards. I thought to myself, I should have just left when I wanted and let her drive her car like we do most of the time, but I didn’t. Now I was upset and biting my tongue.
It is now just seconds before service and she says something and my tongue shoots fire out and burns her up. How do I know? I see her soul by looking into her hurting eyes. Instantly I regret what I have just said and church service is now starting. I know that I’m the only hypocrite in the church. To make matters WORSE, we are soon going to partake in the Lord’s Supper.
The time to get things right with my best bud was now, so I said the 6 words that knew I must say, “you were right and I was wrong.” I said more intimate words in her ear than that because it hurt me that I offended her. She grabbed my hand and sqeezed it, which means you’re good….dufuss.
Have you discovered that the old child’s tune,Sticks and Stones, just isn’t true? Words hurt! Words can bruise feelings, stir up wrath, can ruin friendships, fracture families and demolish dreams.
Let me ask you on this Friday to be careful of your negative words used on others, especially those that are closest to us. Start watching 👀your words, in particularly in context with folks you have intimate relationships with. I have some questions for us.
Do you regularly use sarcastic, snippy, responses?
Do you point out flaws and failings even when it is not necessary to do so?
Do you compare you spouse or child or friend unfavorably to other people?
Do you hurl insults when you are angry or resort to name calling when frustrated?
Do you continuously bring up past transgressions and make others repeatedly relive their failures?
If so, you are probably kindling a fire in someone’s spirt that will eventually burn down the relationship you’ve built. For many you are reminded with pain that words hurt.
Open your ears to hear the tone of the words today. Study your speech more closely to see whether your words build others up or burn them down.
To you who know me, yes I did bow my knee at the altar to seek (and find) forgiveness for my heart. Then took the Lord’s Supper.